Counselling session numero uno ;)

goodness.
I've been wanting to blog since last thursday but haven't been able to. grrrr.
I was at the library with about 2 hours to spare, and someone (name omitted) came and started talking to me. I kept saying that I had some stuff to do online but the person never got the hint. I was soooo annoyed. ugh.

So here i am...4 days later....

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Last week I learned how to break up with someone.
It was pretty hilarious to me, but very much informative too. haha.
So..I've decided to share a bit of my knowledge with whom ever would like to hear. :)

It isn't called breaking up either...it's called...moving on with maturity. haha
First of all, you have to use "I" language. To help the person in their greiving process, you have to give them reason on account of YOU. Let them know how YOU need to move out of the relationship and YOU are bascially the problem.

side note: I asked...what if the person cheated on me? I sure as heck wouldn't use I language. It's THEIR fault, and I'd pretty much let them know. My teacher just laughed at me.

Next, You have to give the person space. If we keep ourselves around the person and try to stay "friends," then problems will start. Even if you want to stay friends with them, there must be a certain amount of space between each other. Each person needs to grieve bc if not, we will always go back. Proximity tends to drive relationships. Even if we don't like the person, after a while, you learn to like them. haha. I think that's kinda funny.
We can never truly stay friends with our ex's. We can be civil and talk when we see each other, but the concept of friends has been lost. At least in most cases.

Beware, bc after a while, you will begin feeling lonely. THis lonliness can be mistaken for missing the person. It might not be that you want to be with them, but you have found yourself feeling alone, and that can be an ugly feeling.

I know i've probably missed a bunch of points, but this is all i could remember right now.

So be practical ya'll. & remember...."You can never trust a sperm"


until next time......